I was once an avid follower on Facebook. I would update my status twice a day to let my friends and family know what was going on in my life, and what changes or funny things had happened since my last post...
One morning, I saw a link from someone elses status, that led you to a display of the most frequently used words on your Facebook page, something funny right? You know what mine said?
"The most frequently used word is 'Work' " HA!
"The second most frequently used word is 'Coffee'" LMFAO!
My priorities were obviously not in order. I realized that the definition of this "thing" I'm doing on my Facebook page every day is "BOREDOM".
Maybe most of you aren't bored on your Facebook. Maybe you play games for hours at a time, growing your crops, or taking care of your cafe, fishtank, whatever. Trust me I've had my share of those hours spent when I should have been doing the dishes or mopping the floors, but was instead growing corn and milking cows, ONLINE.
Here is another observation. I see my friends with this app on their smartphone that allows them to post status updates, and pictures right to their Facebook page, without having to wait until they get home, at which time "the moment is over", right? The funny part: These same people that I enjoy spending time with, are only spending their time with me, updating their statuses and posting pics! I'll put it simply and get it out quickly,
"If you have time to post about it on Facebook, then it isn't that fun to begin with."
There, I said it. Yep, that's right. You think your life is so interesting that people want to know about the carriage ride where your boyfriend proposed, so in the middle of his well thought out and romantic request, you say "Wait! I have to take a pic! The girls are gonna love this one! Let me just type this in real quick, hold on...(click, click, click) send.....Ok I'm ready, go ahead." More fun for your friends actually, because what they imagine is that you were actually enjoying the moment being played out for you, rather than what you actually did, which was ruin it.
I don't want to be a hater. I saw the movie, which was quite well put together by the way, and I love that little guy that played Mark Zuckerberg. What a great success story about this man that worked non-stop, around the clock, fashioning this ultra productive database that would change the lives and social links of millions. One thing I care to note though: that man worked around the clock, 24 hours a day and 7 days a week to build this, and that is how he became successful. While his friends partied, he worked, and while his co-workers celebrated a successful change, he was working feverishly on the next one. See, success only comes to those who work hard, and earn what they have coming to them. I will save that rant for another blog. Something tells me that Mark Zuckerberg doesn't spend a whole lot of minutes in his day, updating his status. His two most commonly words would probably be strangely similar to mine...like I would ever compare.
On to the next complaint. What business do we have, being friends with ex's on Facebook? They can view our pictures, they can comment on our page, and before we may have a chance to delete that flirtatious remark before our new boyfriend sees it, oops, too late, 300 people read it, and he's bound to find out one way or another. My husband and I had an agreement....Unless it was family, we wouldn't befriend the opposite sex on the Facebook. I hate to sound judgmental, because it's one of my strongest features as a person, that I refuse to pass judgement, but if that rule bothers you, I mean really makes you feel like your "personal rights" would be violated, then you need to reconsider the commitment you've made to your partner. It's only my opinion...
I no longer have a Facebook page, and it was one of the best decisions I feel I ever made. I'll get a little political on you here, and I want to disclose that I know not about the details of American Gov't today, nor do I claim to state facts, so please take whatever I say with a grain of salt. I've seen some videos, and read some articles, that suggest that the government may start using little tools to help them track, locate, predict, or control the activities of the American people. As I stated, I'm not sure that any of this is fact, and I don't pretend to know what I'm talking about. But, if you look at it this way, on your Facebook page last night you "checked in" at Romano's Macaroni Grill at 7:36 pm. Nuff said.
My mother always told me, "If you don't want anyone to know about it, DON'T write it down!" I've seen my share of posts on Facebook that suggest prejudices, vulgarity, and offensive statements. You can ask anyone who knows me on a personal level, they will tell you that I am the FIRST person to say what I'm thinking, whether it is hurtful or not. Those same people will also tell you that I do so with as much tact and dignity as possible, so as not to burn bridges, create tainted images, etc. I have an associate, that's all we will call them, and frequently this persons' Facebook page is updated with comments referring to sex, curse words that are unmentionable even to me, and equally offensive statements directed at people in their life that are not present to defend themselves. Now, I am FIRM believer in the freedom of speech, but my question is, why? Why? Why do you feel the need to lessen your image and taint others opinions of you, by showing only the UNintelligent side of your personal self? I'm just saying, no matter who you are, and how you claim not to give a S**T what people think of you, you care, come on...you know you do...don't lie.
I think that about sums it up...Maybe if we have a Facebook page, we could use it responsibly, and not as a tool for breaking up relationships, showing our asses, and avoiding the real world in general. Maybe if we want to reconnect with someone, we could give them a friendly phone call, or go visit them, and leave the damn smartphone in the car. Maybe if we really feel the need to put our "opinions" out there, we could find a way to say it without the consequence of hurting others and offending most. It's not funny, it's offensive. And it goes without saying, that since I've been free of my Facebook page, I find it a lot more fun to actually live in the moment I am in, and not be worried about what comes next, "the posting on the Facebook". Once again, only my opinion.
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